Today's Tip for Families

03-07-2022

Avoid Punishing in the Heat of the Moment

Your teen has clearly broken the rules. You are angry. Your first reaction is to say "You're grounded!"

The anger you are feeling is natural. But count to 10 and take a deep breath before imposing a punishment. After you're calm, think about what your teen has done. Is grounding really appropriate? Maybe there is a better way to encourage correct behavior.

Ideally, consequences should be established at the same time as the rules—before they are needed. If you have to impose a consequence after your teen has misbehaved, relate it to the wrongdoing. For example, if your teen has done something which caused worry or trouble for the family, you could require your teen to perform "family community service" to make up for it. This might involve washing the family car, babysitting younger siblings or doing household chores. This is an option that benefits the rest of the family while allowing your teen some time to think.

This type of consequence involves more discipline than it does punishment. Punishment, such as grounding, should be at most an occasional measure. Discipline is life-long. It teaches self-control and consideration of others. It builds responsibility and maturity.

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