Daily Tips for Families

Today's Tip for Families

06-22-2022

Even the best-behaved children sometimes argue. They roll their eyes. They ask, "Do I have to?" Or they say no until you persuade them to cooperate.

Here are some ways to promote good behavior from the outset:

Highlight the positive. Help your child feel self-disciplined by complimenting good behavior as much as possible. This increases the chance that it will continue.
Foster independence. If a task is within your child's capabilities, such as resolving minor disagreements with a sibling, encourage your child to do it. This limits opportunities for conflict between you.
Follow through. When you've established a consequence ("Put your pink shirt in the laundry or it won't get washed"), enforce it consistently. When kids know parents are serious, they don't test them as often.
Avoid power struggles. Instead of matching your child's oppositional attitude, try the reverse. Show how calm—even understanding—you can be. "You're right. TV is more fun than chores. Let's finish cleaning so you can watch your show."
Don't get personal. The less accusatory you sound, the better. For example, "There are clothes on the floor" is better than "Your room is a disaster." "We treat each other politely in this house" is better than "You're being so rude."

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Clairemont Elementary School Title I Department